A man who calls himself the male Bonnie Blue has shared his biggest regrets after sleeping with over 1,000 women. Benny James is a content creator, and has spoken out about his experiences, in a hope Bonnie herself might listen to him.
The 31-year-old has said he regrets his actions, and has warned Bonnie Blue she is making a “big mistake”. Bonnie recently slept with over 1,000 men in a day, and then got banned from OnlyFans after her “petting zoo” challenge was deemed as “too extreme” for the site.
Benny, from London, said “having the buzz around you and making money” is not worth the “dark hole” later down the line. He admitted he sleep with countless strangers every week, and did this for a decade. He would slide into people’s DMs for hookups, and go clubbing up to four times a week just to find women.
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At the time, he told himself he was “just living life” and that it was “just a bit of fun”. But he said with hindsight he realises he was sleeping with so many women because he “didn’t really like being on his own”.
Benny secretly suffered with anxiety, depression and at times could barely leave the house – turning to drugs and alcohol to boost his plummeting self esteem. He said he can see his “old self” in Bonnie Blue. While he doesn’t judge her, Benny urged Bonnie to stop before she hits rock bottom – just like he did.
“I was probably like the male equivalent to Bonnie Blue back in the day,” Benny said. “I would tell her to think about the future. In 10 years time, how’s it going to affect your mental health? How is that going to affect you physically?
“With me, my friends and family saw me as ‘Jack the lad’ – going out, having fun. But deep down, it was affecting me without me knowing, until I hit rock bottom. I think the way she’s going, she gets so much negativity. That will play a big role.
“It’ll just build and build and build up. And then when you want to sit back and have a normal life, it’s hard to do that. Right now, I think it’s just money, money, money for her. I feel for her because I feel like it’s almost a type of self harm, almost like she’s doing it because she feels worthless.
“I had anxiety and depression from it – I can kind of see similar traits in what’s going on with her. Although she makes it out that she looks happy, for me looking in, I’m like ‘you don’t look happy’. Like, you don’t want to be doing this. Like, stop it.”
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He admitted that women are looked upon differently in the industry, and said this misogyny may have an impact on Bonnie. Benny added: “I just think for her, moving forward, when she’s slept with so many people, it will be very hard for her to find that happy life. As a guy, it’s brushed under the carpet a little bit. But for women, they’re looked upon differently.”
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