A truly incredible snog is a bit like a rainbow — few and far between, and quite the wonder to behold.
We’re talking no washing machine action, no awkward boob groping, just a hot, delicate, passionate make out session.
There’s been a growing movement on social media demanding we reinstate sucking face as a top romantic priority.
‘I want to see more snogging without consequences, and I want to see more snogging that just stops at snogging,’ creator Tilly Ferrari exclaimed in a recent post.
So, if kissing is officially ‘in’ for 2026, the question is: how do we all make sure we’re at the top of our tonsil tennis game?
Metro recently consulted experts to once and for all come up with a list of nine surefire ways to tell if you’re good in bed.
And this time around we’re takings things just as seriously, garnering insight from a top sex therapist to find out exactly what makes a phenomenal kisser.
The average person spends about two weeks of their entire life kissing — so you may as well be great at it…
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You’re responsive to your partner’s style
According to Gigi Engle, a certified sex and relationships psychotherapist and author of Kink Curious, one of the best ways to tell if someone is a good kisser or not, is if they’re able to adapt their snogging style.
She tells Metro: ‘Great kissers don’t stick to a script. They adjust pressure, pace, and intensity based on what the other person is doing.’
‘If you’re actively responding instead of performing what you “think” good kissing it, that attunement reads as confidence. It’s what makes a kiss feel mutual and unique, while still using skill.’
So, if they’re not giving you loads of tongue, keep yours locked and loaded for a little while. Or, if it’s getting passionate, maybe try a little nibble.
Be in tune to the ‘vibe’ of the kiss, and switch up your style accordingly.
Your body stays engaged, not just your mouth
A really important thing to remember, Gigi says, is that a fabulous mind-blowing kiss involves ‘the whole body.’
‘Subtle touches, pulling someone closer, and other forms of grounding through physical contact makes the kiss feel more embodied.’
Gigi adds: ‘When your body communicates desire alongside your lips, the kiss feels intentional and more passionate.’
So much of sexual tension is the journey, the small physical moments between two people that make it clear some serious contact is about to take place.
You know how to pause without breaking the moment
There comes a time in any great snog when both parties are desperately gasping for a breath of air. It’s during these pivotal moments that an experienced kisser can really shine.
Gigi shares: ‘Knowing when to pull back slightly, breathe together, or make eye contact mid-kiss is a major skill. Those micro-pauses build tension and intimacy, rather than making it awkward or weird.’
‘If someone wants to lean back in immediately after a pause, that’s a strong sign you’re doing something right. Pay attention to what is happening between the two of you.’
You make the other person feel chosen
‘Great kissing isn’t just about skill, it’s also quite emotional,’ Gigi adds.
She continues: ‘If your partner feels focused on, desired, and un-rushed, the kiss lands differently. Feeling wanted is often what people remember most, even more than specific moves or techniques.’
If you ever feel as though your make out partner is disconnected or distracted, you automatically fall out of the trance. It’s almost as if someone’s poured a bucket of cold water over you, the sexiness and heat disappears.
Gigi shares: ‘Great kissers communicate desire through their presence in the moment.
‘That means leaning in with intention, staying focused on the other person, and responding to how the other person kisses back.
‘Eye contact, pacing, and subtle touch all signal, “I want you,” not just the act of kissing itself.’
People want to kiss you again
It might sound obvious, but the easiest way to know whether or not you’re a good kisser? If the person you’re smooching keeps coming back for more.
‘If someone leans in twice, initiates future kisses, or mentions it afterward, that’s feedback worth noting. Good kissing leaves people curious, energised, and wanting to repeat the experience.’
So, if there’s someone who keeps finding ways for their lips to meet yours, you might just be doing something right.
Get out there, keep practising, and keep kissing.
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