Cervix kissing is the intense sex fantasy that has nothing to do with oral

Erotic fiction has come a long way since Mills and Boon brought ‘heaving bosoms’ and ‘throbbing members’ into the mainstream.

These days, anyone with an internet connection can post amateur smut on one of the many global platforms dedicated to it — and their writing makes Fifty Shades look like Mary Poppins.

Among giantess kinks and tentacle play, X-rated fan fiction (typically featuring famous people or characters from existing books, TV shows and movies) is particularly popular online.

But while stories in this genre cover everyone from superheroes to mafia bosses, many share one common fantasy: cervix kissing.

On Wattpad – the ‘world’s largest storytelling community’ – a search for the phrase cervix kiss returns a dizzying 22,700 results, while sites like Quotev and AO3 show countless pages of works including the term.

‘The tip of his c*** kissed my cervix and he sighed in relief,’ reads example. ‘”Almost didn’t think you could take all of it baby,” he strained.’

As you’ve probably guessed, it’s not about kissing, rather an overly flowery way to describe a man’s penis penetrating a woman deeply enough to press against (and sometimes even penetrate) her cervix, the cylinder-shaped neck of tissue that connects the uterus and vagina. It sometimes also referred to as bottoming out, or cervix banging, hitting, pounding or ramming.

In these stories, the cervical smooch recipient is usually overcome with pleasure, awe-struck by her partner’s size and skill — inevitably before being filled with ‘thick ropes of his seed’ or similar. In reality however, she’d likely be overcome with pain, having experienced what one Reddit user calls ‘a milder female version of the groin kick.’

‘Cervix kissing is a new, trendy name; however, cervical (also known as C-spot) stimulation has been around forever,’ certified sex and relationships psychotherapist and sex educator, Gigi Engle, tells Metro.

Although it can be pleasurable for some, she explains it’s not something that should be attempted without a lot of prior communication, as ‘most people don’t really want their cervix “smacked” that hard during sex.’

Quick biology lesson for those who need a refresher: the cervix is about an inch in diameter, and changes position within the vaginal canal depending on arousal or at different stages of the menstrual cycle. While sensitivity will differ from person to person, it can feel especially tender for women with conditions like endometriosis, pelvic inflammatory disease and pelvic congestion syndrome.

The appeal of cervix kissing hinges on what Gigi calls ‘the fantasy around really big penises and the size queen narrative.’

However, various threads on r/FanFiction say it ‘screams the author is a virgin’ or ‘ruins a sex scene’ for women readers. In fact, the thought alone can be a major turn-off.

‘I’ve read far too many fics where it’s conflated with the female g-spot… nothing sounds less pleasant than something hitting my cervix,’ wrote one commenter, while another added: ‘Whenever there is mention of a d*** hitting a cervix… my whole body just cringes because ow.’

Ultimately, we like what we like in the bedroom, and there’s nothing wrong with having fantasies of cervix kissing. A lack of understanding of and consideration for a partner’s pleasure – regardless of whether they’re real or imaginary – is where it falls into problematic territory.

If you want to try C-spot stimulation, Gigi recommends being gentle, ‘with slow breaths or slower sex, thereby stimulating the area without “slamming” it.’

She also highlights that it’s a ‘misconception’ that you need to be well endowed to partake, as the vagina is normally between four to eight inches deep.

‘Almost anyone with an average-sized penis can achieve this kind of stimulation,’ Gigi adds. ‘Just something to keep in mind.’

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