![Story from Jam Press (Mum Ditch Kids) Pictured: Amanda Moss. 'I left my SIX kids behind in the UK to start over abroad ? men do it all the time so why can't I?' A mum who left her six kids behind to ?start over? says that other women shouldn?t be shamed for doing the same, as ?men do it all the time?. Amanda Moss left everything ? including her husband and high-earning job as well ? when her business collapsed in the UK. She saw an opportunity to ?start again? abroad, so she ditched Liverpool and jetted off to Ayia Napa, Cyprus, to replicate her former success there. And while people slammed her for being a ?terrible mum?, she has no regrets. In fact, the 53-year-old believes more mums need to start being ?selfish? and leaving their families behind. ?I see so many women shrinking to fit into society?s expectations and losing their identity,? the published author told What's The Jam. ?Reclaim it. ?Stop worrying about what others think. ?As long as your kids are loved and secure, then other people?s opinions mean nothing. ?People love to slam women, especially online. ?I?ve been told I look like ?a woman with three kids from three different dads?. ?There?s no accountability for the dads that f**ked off ? at least we stuck around. ?It?s just a misogynistic attitude towards women, especially those who are strong and don?t fit into the box that people want mothers to be in. ?[People] feel uncomfortable [with that]. ?It?s time to flip the script; make men responsible for their failings and stop piling it all on women.? Amanda, who went from earning ?120,000 per year to ?50,000, left in May 2020. She also lost four stone and had a series of cosmetic procedures. Her top tip to ?break free?? Embrace the resentment. She said: ?Sit down and talk with your kids to see how they feel. ?If they?ve noticed you?re unhappy, like mine did, they may support the move. ?You aren?t abandoning them; when a relationship breaks down, one parent has to leave. ?Usually, it?s the man. ?We don?t stop being a mum, but we can begin to be ourselves again to make us better people in the long run. ?There will be resentment for being pushed into the situation and a lot of guilt for leaving. ?But you?ll grow. ?Never stop communicating with them; let your kids know you?re present in their lives constantly. ?And finally, live without regret. ?It?s an unnecessary energy that drains you. ?Kids adapt and thrive seeing their mum happy, rather than crying most weekends.? Amanda, whose kids [not named for privacy reasons] are aged 24, 23, 21, 19, 16 and 11, is now onto the next phase of her transformation: finding a man. While she?s already dabbled in a few Cypriot men, including those in their 30s, it?s proven a tricky task. She said: ?All men are disappointing and emotionally unavailable s**t bags. ?I haven?t been on a date in almost two years. ?I would like to find Mr Right, but my standards are very high and I won?t settle for breadcrumb affection. ?When I?m clubbing, they come up to me and say: ?You?re a proper MILF, ? it gives me the ick. ?I think I?m swearing off men for good.? Amanda, who wrote a book called You?re Going to Die So Do It Anyway, says women ?don?t get old, they get wiser?. She added: ?I?m not a carton of milk; there?s no sell-by date on me. ?People need to mind their own business. ?If they?re not paying my bills, then they have no say on how I live my life. ?I?m free ? and it?s about time other mums find that freedom, too.? ENDS EDITOR?S NOTE: All press are kindly requested to include a mention of Amanda?s book, You?re Going To Die So Do It Anyway, somewhere in the copy. Video Usage Licence: (EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained an exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request. Video Restrictions: None.](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/SEI_260600002-fa44-e1754312395475.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&w=646)
A mum who left her six kids in the UK for a new life abroad says women shouldn’t be shamed for prioritising themselves — as ‘men do it all the time’.
When Amanda Moss’s lifestyle magazine business collapsed in 2020, she said goodbye to her family, husband and home in Liverpool, hoping to ‘start again’ in Ayia Napa, Cyprus.
But while people have slammed her for being a ‘terrible mum’, she has no regrets. In fact, Amanda believes more mums need to start being ‘selfish’ and doing what benefits them.
‘I see so many women shrinking to fit into society’s expectations and losing their identity,’ says the 53-year-old. ‘Reclaim it. Stop worrying about what others think.’
Her children, then aged seven, 11, 14, 16, 18 and 19, were supportive of the move, after noticing Amanda had become increasingly unhappy in her marriage to their father.
After sitting down with them and explaining her situation, they spoke about their feelings, and the family were able to minimise any tension.
![Story from Jam Press (Mum Ditch Kids) Pictured: Amanda with her husband and their six kids in 2019. 'I left my SIX kids behind in the UK to start over abroad ? men do it all the time so why can't I?' A mum who left her six kids behind to ?start over? says that other women shouldn?t be shamed for doing the same, as ?men do it all the time?. Amanda Moss left everything ? including her husband and high-earning job as well ? when her business collapsed in the UK. She saw an opportunity to ?start again? abroad, so she ditched Liverpool and jetted off to Ayia Napa, Cyprus, to replicate her former success there. And while people slammed her for being a ?terrible mum?, she has no regrets. In fact, the 53-year-old believes more mums need to start being ?selfish? and leaving their families behind. ?I see so many women shrinking to fit into society?s expectations and losing their identity,? the published author told What's The Jam. ?Reclaim it. ?Stop worrying about what others think. ?As long as your kids are loved and secure, then other people?s opinions mean nothing. ?People love to slam women, especially online. ?I?ve been told I look like ?a woman with three kids from three different dads?. ?There?s no accountability for the dads that f**ked off ? at least we stuck around. ?It?s just a misogynistic attitude towards women, especially those who are strong and don?t fit into the box that people want mothers to be in. ?[People] feel uncomfortable [with that]. ?It?s time to flip the script; make men responsible for their failings and stop piling it all on women.? Amanda, who went from earning ?120,000 per year to ?50,000, left in May 2020. She also lost four stone and had a series of cosmetic procedures. Her top tip to ?break free?? Embrace the resentment. She said: ?Sit down and talk with your kids to see how they feel. ?If they?ve noticed you?re unhappy, like mine did, they may support the move. ?You aren?t abandoning them; when a relationship breaks down, one parent has to leave. ?Usually, it?s the man. ?We don?t stop being a mum, but we can begin to be ourselves again to make us better people in the long run. ?There will be resentment for being pushed into the situation and a lot of guilt for leaving. ?But you?ll grow. ?Never stop communicating with them; let your kids know you?re present in their lives constantly. ?And finally, live without regret. ?It?s an unnecessary energy that drains you. ?Kids adapt and thrive seeing their mum happy, rather than crying most weekends.? Amanda, whose kids [not named for privacy reasons] are aged 24, 23, 21, 19, 16 and 11, is now onto the next phase of her transformation: finding a man. While she?s already dabbled in a few Cypriot men, including those in their 30s, it?s proven a tricky task. She said: ?All men are disappointing and emotionally unavailable s**t bags. ?I haven?t been on a date in almost two years. ?I would like to find Mr Right, but my standards are very high and I won?t settle for breadcrumb affection. ?When I?m clubbing, they come up to me and say: ?You?re a proper MILF, ? it gives me the ick. ?I think I?m swearing off men for good.? Amanda, who wrote a book called You?re Going to Die So Do It Anyway, says women ?don?t get old, they get wiser?. She added: ?I?m not a carton of milk; there?s no sell-by date on me. ?People need to mind their own business. ?If they?re not paying my bills, then they have no say on how I live my life. ?I?m free ? and it?s about time other mums find that freedom, too.? ENDS EDITOR?S NOTE: All press are kindly requested to include a mention of Amanda?s book, You?re Going To Die So Do It Anyway, somewhere in the copy. Video Usage Licence: (EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained an exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request. Video Restrictions: None.](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/SEI_260600150-4c50.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&w=640)
![Story from Jam Press (Mum Ditch Kids) Pictured: Amanda with her husband and their six kids in 2019. 'I left my SIX kids behind in the UK to start over abroad ? men do it all the time so why can't I?' A mum who left her six kids behind to ?start over? says that other women shouldn?t be shamed for doing the same, as ?men do it all the time?. Amanda Moss left everything ? including her husband and high-earning job as well ? when her business collapsed in the UK. She saw an opportunity to ?start again? abroad, so she ditched Liverpool and jetted off to Ayia Napa, Cyprus, to replicate her former success there. And while people slammed her for being a ?terrible mum?, she has no regrets. In fact, the 53-year-old believes more mums need to start being ?selfish? and leaving their families behind. ?I see so many women shrinking to fit into society?s expectations and losing their identity,? the published author told What's The Jam. ?Reclaim it. ?Stop worrying about what others think. ?As long as your kids are loved and secure, then other people?s opinions mean nothing. ?People love to slam women, especially online. ?I?ve been told I look like ?a woman with three kids from three different dads?. ?There?s no accountability for the dads that f**ked off ? at least we stuck around. ?It?s just a misogynistic attitude towards women, especially those who are strong and don?t fit into the box that people want mothers to be in. ?[People] feel uncomfortable [with that]. ?It?s time to flip the script; make men responsible for their failings and stop piling it all on women.? Amanda, who went from earning ?120,000 per year to ?50,000, left in May 2020. She also lost four stone and had a series of cosmetic procedures. Her top tip to ?break free?? Embrace the resentment. She said: ?Sit down and talk with your kids to see how they feel. ?If they?ve noticed you?re unhappy, like mine did, they may support the move. ?You aren?t abandoning them; when a relationship breaks down, one parent has to leave. ?Usually, it?s the man. ?We don?t stop being a mum, but we can begin to be ourselves again to make us better people in the long run. ?There will be resentment for being pushed into the situation and a lot of guilt for leaving. ?But you?ll grow. ?Never stop communicating with them; let your kids know you?re present in their lives constantly. ?And finally, live without regret. ?It?s an unnecessary energy that drains you. ?Kids adapt and thrive seeing their mum happy, rather than crying most weekends.? Amanda, whose kids [not named for privacy reasons] are aged 24, 23, 21, 19, 16 and 11, is now onto the next phase of her transformation: finding a man. While she?s already dabbled in a few Cypriot men, including those in their 30s, it?s proven a tricky task. She said: ?All men are disappointing and emotionally unavailable s**t bags. ?I haven?t been on a date in almost two years. ?I would like to find Mr Right, but my standards are very high and I won?t settle for breadcrumb affection. ?When I?m clubbing, they come up to me and say: ?You?re a proper MILF, ? it gives me the ick. ?I think I?m swearing off men for good.? Amanda, who wrote a book called You?re Going to Die So Do It Anyway, says women ?don?t get old, they get wiser?. She added: ?I?m not a carton of milk; there?s no sell-by date on me. ?People need to mind their own business. ?If they?re not paying my bills, then they have no say on how I live my life. ?I?m free ? and it?s about time other mums find that freedom, too.? ENDS EDITOR?S NOTE: All press are kindly requested to include a mention of Amanda?s book, You?re Going To Die So Do It Anyway, somewhere in the copy. Video Usage Licence: (EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained an exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request. Video Restrictions: None.](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/SEI_260600335-b641.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&w=646)
Despite the distance between them, the mum is also a constant presence in her children’s lives; alongside daily FaceTime calls, Amanda flies back to see them monthly and spends three months around Christmas back in Liverpool, while they spend holidays over in Cyprus.
She also provides for the kids financially, paying ‘for everything except council tax’ — including the mortgage on the home they live in with her ex.
‘It’s a dysfunctional family dynamic but it works because I function better in a warm climate,’ Amanda explains. ‘I set a good example to my kids by leaving, showing them they shouldn’t settle for less than they deserve in life. They’re fully supportive of me and we are very close.’
![Story from Jam Press (Mum Ditch Kids) Pictured: Amanda Moss. 'I left my SIX kids behind in the UK to start over abroad ? men do it all the time so why can't I?' A mum who left her six kids behind to ?start over? says that other women shouldn?t be shamed for doing the same, as ?men do it all the time?. Amanda Moss left everything ? including her husband and high-earning job as well ? when her business collapsed in the UK. She saw an opportunity to ?start again? abroad, so she ditched Liverpool and jetted off to Ayia Napa, Cyprus, to replicate her former success there. And while people slammed her for being a ?terrible mum?, she has no regrets. In fact, the 53-year-old believes more mums need to start being ?selfish? and leaving their families behind. ?I see so many women shrinking to fit into society?s expectations and losing their identity,? the published author told What's The Jam. ?Reclaim it. ?Stop worrying about what others think. ?As long as your kids are loved and secure, then other people?s opinions mean nothing. ?People love to slam women, especially online. ?I?ve been told I look like ?a woman with three kids from three different dads?. ?There?s no accountability for the dads that f**ked off ? at least we stuck around. ?It?s just a misogynistic attitude towards women, especially those who are strong and don?t fit into the box that people want mothers to be in. ?[People] feel uncomfortable [with that]. ?It?s time to flip the script; make men responsible for their failings and stop piling it all on women.? Amanda, who went from earning ?120,000 per year to ?50,000, left in May 2020. She also lost four stone and had a series of cosmetic procedures. Her top tip to ?break free?? Embrace the resentment. She said: ?Sit down and talk with your kids to see how they feel. ?If they?ve noticed you?re unhappy, like mine did, they may support the move. ?You aren?t abandoning them; when a relationship breaks down, one parent has to leave. ?Usually, it?s the man. ?We don?t stop being a mum, but we can begin to be ourselves again to make us better people in the long run. ?There will be resentment for being pushed into the situation and a lot of guilt for leaving. ?But you?ll grow. ?Never stop communicating with them; let your kids know you?re present in their lives constantly. ?And finally, live without regret. ?It?s an unnecessary energy that drains you. ?Kids adapt and thrive seeing their mum happy, rather than crying most weekends.? Amanda, whose kids [not named for privacy reasons] are aged 24, 23, 21, 19, 16 and 11, is now onto the next phase of her transformation: finding a man. While she?s already dabbled in a few Cypriot men, including those in their 30s, it?s proven a tricky task. She said: ?All men are disappointing and emotionally unavailable s**t bags. ?I haven?t been on a date in almost two years. ?I would like to find Mr Right, but my standards are very high and I won?t settle for breadcrumb affection. ?When I?m clubbing, they come up to me and say: ?You?re a proper MILF, ? it gives me the ick. ?I think I?m swearing off men for good.? Amanda, who wrote a book called You?re Going to Die So Do It Anyway, says women ?don?t get old, they get wiser?. She added: ?I?m not a carton of milk; there?s no sell-by date on me. ?People need to mind their own business. ?If they?re not paying my bills, then they have no say on how I live my life. ?I?m free ? and it?s about time other mums find that freedom, too.? ENDS EDITOR?S NOTE: All press are kindly requested to include a mention of Amanda?s book, You?re Going To Die So Do It Anyway, somewhere in the copy. Video Usage Licence: (EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained an exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request. Video Restrictions: None.](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/SEI_260600282-fd73.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&w=646)
Unfortunately though, that hasn’t been the case for everyone, and she’s faced strong opinions from people online.
Amanda says: ‘There’s no accountability for the dads that f**ked off – at least we stuck around. It’s just a misogynistic attitude towards women, especially those who are strong and don’t fit into the box that people want mothers to be in. [People] feel uncomfortable [with that].’
![Story from Jam Press (Mum Ditch Kids) Pictured: Amanda Moss. 'I left my SIX kids behind in the UK to start over abroad ? men do it all the time so why can't I?' A mum who left her six kids behind to ?start over? says that other women shouldn?t be shamed for doing the same, as ?men do it all the time?. Amanda Moss left everything ? including her husband and high-earning job as well ? when her business collapsed in the UK. She saw an opportunity to ?start again? abroad, so she ditched Liverpool and jetted off to Ayia Napa, Cyprus, to replicate her former success there. And while people slammed her for being a ?terrible mum?, she has no regrets. In fact, the 53-year-old believes more mums need to start being ?selfish? and leaving their families behind. ?I see so many women shrinking to fit into society?s expectations and losing their identity,? the published author told What's The Jam. ?Reclaim it. ?Stop worrying about what others think. ?As long as your kids are loved and secure, then other people?s opinions mean nothing. ?People love to slam women, especially online. ?I?ve been told I look like ?a woman with three kids from three different dads?. ?There?s no accountability for the dads that f**ked off ? at least we stuck around. ?It?s just a misogynistic attitude towards women, especially those who are strong and don?t fit into the box that people want mothers to be in. ?[People] feel uncomfortable [with that]. ?It?s time to flip the script; make men responsible for their failings and stop piling it all on women.? Amanda, who went from earning ?120,000 per year to ?50,000, left in May 2020. She also lost four stone and had a series of cosmetic procedures. Her top tip to ?break free?? Embrace the resentment. She said: ?Sit down and talk with your kids to see how they feel. ?If they?ve noticed you?re unhappy, like mine did, they may support the move. ?You aren?t abandoning them; when a relationship breaks down, one parent has to leave. ?Usually, it?s the man. ?We don?t stop being a mum, but we can begin to be ourselves again to make us better people in the long run. ?There will be resentment for being pushed into the situation and a lot of guilt for leaving. ?But you?ll grow. ?Never stop communicating with them; let your kids know you?re present in their lives constantly. ?And finally, live without regret. ?It?s an unnecessary energy that drains you. ?Kids adapt and thrive seeing their mum happy, rather than crying most weekends.? Amanda, whose kids [not named for privacy reasons] are aged 24, 23, 21, 19, 16 and 11, is now onto the next phase of her transformation: finding a man. While she?s already dabbled in a few Cypriot men, including those in their 30s, it?s proven a tricky task. She said: ?All men are disappointing and emotionally unavailable s**t bags. ?I haven?t been on a date in almost two years. ?I would like to find Mr Right, but my standards are very high and I won?t settle for breadcrumb affection. ?When I?m clubbing, they come up to me and say: ?You?re a proper MILF, ? it gives me the ick. ?I think I?m swearing off men for good.? Amanda, who wrote a book called You?re Going to Die So Do It Anyway, says women ?don?t get old, they get wiser?. She added: ?I?m not a carton of milk; there?s no sell-by date on me. ?People need to mind their own business. ?If they?re not paying my bills, then they have no say on how I live my life. ?I?m free ? and it?s about time other mums find that freedom, too.? ENDS EDITOR?S NOTE: All press are kindly requested to include a mention of Amanda?s book, You?re Going To Die So Do It Anyway, somewhere in the copy. Video Usage Licence: (EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained an exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request. Video Restrictions: None.](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/SEI_260600189-bd76-e1754312508368.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&w=646)
Her top tip to ‘break free’ is to embrace the resentment and guilt that comes from making such a big decision, but to ultimately live without regret, adding: ‘It’s an unnecessary energy that drains you. Kids adapt and thrive seeing their mum happy, rather than crying most weekends.’
Since she moved to Cyprus, Amanda has been able to rebuild her business, and has also written a book about reinvention over 50 called You’re Going To Die So Do It Anyway. Her image has had a makeover too, after she lost four stone and had a series of cosmetic procedures.
![Story from Jam Press (Mum Ditch Kids) Pictured: Amanda Moss. 'I left my SIX kids behind in the UK to start over abroad ? men do it all the time so why can't I?' A mum who left her six kids behind to ?start over? says that other women shouldn?t be shamed for doing the same, as ?men do it all the time?. Amanda Moss left everything ? including her husband and high-earning job as well ? when her business collapsed in the UK. She saw an opportunity to ?start again? abroad, so she ditched Liverpool and jetted off to Ayia Napa, Cyprus, to replicate her former success there. And while people slammed her for being a ?terrible mum?, she has no regrets. In fact, the 53-year-old believes more mums need to start being ?selfish? and leaving their families behind. ?I see so many women shrinking to fit into society?s expectations and losing their identity,? the published author told What's The Jam. ?Reclaim it. ?Stop worrying about what others think. ?As long as your kids are loved and secure, then other people?s opinions mean nothing. ?People love to slam women, especially online. ?I?ve been told I look like ?a woman with three kids from three different dads?. ?There?s no accountability for the dads that f**ked off ? at least we stuck around. ?It?s just a misogynistic attitude towards women, especially those who are strong and don?t fit into the box that people want mothers to be in. ?[People] feel uncomfortable [with that]. ?It?s time to flip the script; make men responsible for their failings and stop piling it all on women.? Amanda, who went from earning ?120,000 per year to ?50,000, left in May 2020. She also lost four stone and had a series of cosmetic procedures. Her top tip to ?break free?? Embrace the resentment. She said: ?Sit down and talk with your kids to see how they feel. ?If they?ve noticed you?re unhappy, like mine did, they may support the move. ?You aren?t abandoning them; when a relationship breaks down, one parent has to leave. ?Usually, it?s the man. ?We don?t stop being a mum, but we can begin to be ourselves again to make us better people in the long run. ?There will be resentment for being pushed into the situation and a lot of guilt for leaving. ?But you?ll grow. ?Never stop communicating with them; let your kids know you?re present in their lives constantly. ?And finally, live without regret. ?It?s an unnecessary energy that drains you. ?Kids adapt and thrive seeing their mum happy, rather than crying most weekends.? Amanda, whose kids [not named for privacy reasons] are aged 24, 23, 21, 19, 16 and 11, is now onto the next phase of her transformation: finding a man. While she?s already dabbled in a few Cypriot men, including those in their 30s, it?s proven a tricky task. She said: ?All men are disappointing and emotionally unavailable s**t bags. ?I haven?t been on a date in almost two years. ?I would like to find Mr Right, but my standards are very high and I won?t settle for breadcrumb affection. ?When I?m clubbing, they come up to me and say: ?You?re a proper MILF, ? it gives me the ick. ?I think I?m swearing off men for good.? Amanda, who wrote a book called You?re Going to Die So Do It Anyway, says women ?don?t get old, they get wiser?. She added: ?I?m not a carton of milk; there?s no sell-by date on me. ?People need to mind their own business. ?If they?re not paying my bills, then they have no say on how I live my life. ?I?m free ? and it?s about time other mums find that freedom, too.? ENDS EDITOR?S NOTE: All press are kindly requested to include a mention of Amanda?s book, You?re Going To Die So Do It Anyway, somewhere in the copy. Video Usage Licence: (EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained an exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request. Video Restrictions: None.](https://metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/08/SEI_260600103-88a9-e1754312954917.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&w=646)
But one thing she’s finding trickier to transform is her love life, as although she had a few dates following her separation, she believes ‘all men are disappointing and emotionally unavailable s**t bags.’
‘I haven’t been on a date in almost two years,’ Amanda continues. ‘I would like to find Mr Right, but my standards are very high and I won’t settle for breadcrumb affection. When I’m clubbing, they come up to me and say, “You’re a proper MILF” — it gives me the ick. I think I’m swearing off men for good.’
For now, she wants to teach other women about the joys of living on their own terms.
Amanda adds: ‘I’m free – and it’s about time other mums find that freedom, too.’
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